Hippie fem and inner sexism
I work in 90 percent male team, laugh on very sexist jokes (I know, but sometimes they’re damn funny), create chauvinist advertising with all these boobs and legs (ya, I’m in this business) and definitely I responsible for everything what I do.
Quite strange after all this list to say that I’m a feminist, but here it is — I’m.
In our world, it’s a bit dangerous to hang any tags on yourselves, especially those tags that no one really understands clearly and interprets in an own way. So I’ll tell you about MY truth, or rather about the fact that I jokingly call myself a hippie-feminist.
Hippie-feminist means that you do not hate anyone but only love.
To paraphrase the famous slogan of hippies — “Make whatever_you_want, not War”.
Every person should be free to do, think, act as he/she feels and wants without gender limits — and this is probably the main message.
Do not fight against something, but grow inner strength and freedom of thinking.
I do not even know why I want to talk about this today and right now, but I probably need once to have the courage all in all and to declare my stance, to start from myself to reduce at least my own inner sexism.
Inner sexism, what is it? Let’s talk!
I vividly remember as in childhood I used to say that I like to make friendship with boys much more. Now I’ve spotted out that it’s popular among almost all young girls to be like this — to spoke reluctantly about girlish stuff, wear sweatshirts from men’s department of Topshop and brag that your friends all boys, they are kinda simpler and cooler than gals.
I was totally like this, tried to pretend with no coherent reason just because it was trendy. And maybe it was subconsciously desirable for us girls, because we saw that privileges of boy’s world — privileges to be brave, sassy, badass, to laugh out loud, do crazy things.
And yes, yes, it was damn stupid. So thank you, feminism, that I don’t think and act like this now. Every woman need to be proud to be feminine and have a vast ocean of advantages — emotionality, sympathetic. She should not deny feminine stuff never ever.
Not to be a sucker for makeup (that is traditionally considered as women’s) and to be fond of football (that traditionally considered as men’s) and vice versa is totally OK. — You can love what you want and do what you want with no gender dividing. Everyone can love pink color and motorcycles and pink colored motorcycles too. Everyone. Everything. This is the supreme rule.
But if you want to show that you have no bearing to all this girlish stuff like “Ewwww such a Barbie’s shit” — this is the internal sexism that has caught you off guard.
Well, situation is even normal, predictable, because we all live in a very sexist world, we soak it and absorb on daily basis. This stuff is living in us for a long years of being in unhealthy society and it is do poison our brains… But when I threw it away from my head and stopped to dick around I’ve got a lot of wonderful amazingly cool friends-girls. I understood the inner power of girls, the value of their presence in my life. I’ve started to proud, not to be self-conscious while listening to Taylor Swift. I stopped to feel the shame. And life became much easier and better.
You can not get rid of old patterns at once. It’s normal to stumble, but after it — start to analyze, mull over emotions and think like “Okey, I did it, I said it, but I’m not right, it’s not cool, stop-stop-stop”.
Let us respect each other, love each other and gradually pull out of ourselves hatred of ourselves. Let us make a bunch of girl-friends. Let us wear and eat what we want with no pang of guilt.
We can survive anything as long as we have each other, girls.
So, PEACE and LOVE.
